As a teacher I hear such varying comments from parents making excuses for their children’s behaviour or lack of attention in the classroom, with the lamest excuse always presenting itself “Yeah, I was like that as a kid”. Every time I hear that one I want to scream!!!!
The fact that you were lazy, disengaged, uninterested in your learning journey DOES NOT automatically excuse your child from taking an interest in their own education and behaviour.
If your child is struggling at school, either academically, socially or emotionally, you, the parent, are not helping by shrugging your shoulders and stating “Yeah, I was like that”. It is time for you to grow up, get your head out of the sand and take some clear steps towards enhancing your child’s, not only education, but overall wellbeing. We get one chance to mould these little beings – it’s time for some tough love.
By responding to your child’s behaviour or learning issues with that simple five word phrase you have already created an excuse for them not to try their best. By allowing your child to continue to not take on challenges simply because you were “like that” is inferring that you don’t actually believe in your child, you’re sending them a message that it’s okay to be lazy, disengaged, a bully, you fill the gap, simply because you were! Absolutely ludicrous!
I love the quote that states ‘Nothing changes, if nothing changes’. Take a minute to really think about this; change is hard and it can be challenging, but as parents we must take some level of responsibility and we must believe and push our children along so that they can become the best version of themselves.
We don’t need another generation of parents sitting at Parent-Teacher interviews letting important words flow over them and have them respond with “Yeah, I was like that”.