I was whinging to my friend this morning about the noises that surround us, the noise of the children, the noise of the dogs in the street barking, the noise of the television, iPod or whatever device is on, the noise of the cars, the noise from the billabong across the road, the noise, the noise, the noise. I wanted to scream at the noises last night.
Usually these noises are soothing, particularly the noises from the billabong, which some people pay money for to get a recording; I have it literally on my doorstep. The noise of my children is almost always something that helps to warm my heart. Ninety per-cent of my time spent at home is with some sort of music coming from my phone; my poor children are exposed to a wide variety of genres ranging from Pachalbel through to Jessie J with Neil Diamond, ABBA and Adele somewhere in the middle.
Sometimes the noise gets a little too loud and a little too much to bear and I want to just shout “SHUT UP” to everyone and everything around me.
This resolution is clearly not an appropriate form of communication and would obviously do more harm than good in the long run. I believe that when we are put into an anxious situation and just want everything and everybody to go away, it is best to acknowledge the situation, excuse yourself from those around you and take yourself off into a silent place for 5 minutes, just to regain your composure. This will alleviate immediate anxiety, tension, annoyance, but the next step is to get to your ‘quiet place’ as soon as possible, even if this means sending the kids to bed earlier than normal. Sometimes when I need to get to bed early my teenage son will put the other two children to bed for me and then he comes and checks on before heading off to his own ‘quiet space’.
Each and every one of us needs time out regularly, what that looks like will be as individual as you are. For some it will be picking up a book, for others it will be yoga or meditation, perhaps a walk amongst nature for others.
Please remember that as much as we as adults need quiet time, so do our little people.